Dating has always been tricky for me….Even before I acquired the extra wheels for getting around places in late 2015. Why? Because I am special? Will you accept that answer? LOL, I thought not! I always seem to find the guys that are just interested in sex …So not what I wanted or want. Yet, what I always attract- even online. Why? I have never been able to figure it out! Seriously! It’s always been a mystery to me!
Ok, that’s not the entire truth….There is another type that I attract… the….weaker personality type? The ones that are perfectly content to have a woman that they can follow around and do their bidding and never standup to. I hope that makes sense. I have a strong personality myself and I don’t like walking all over people. So this type of guy is definitely not the type of guy that I want either.
That leaves the elusive guy I am looking for. The partner, the one that will stand up to me and stand beside me. The one that will back me up and also tell me when I am wrong, who isn’t afraid to get into a debate with me either But, most of the strong guys I meet? They are the first type up there.⇑
So I had pretty much given up on dating. I mean common! This was my history..even on dating apps! Then you add in a wheelchair and a chronic illness that I have an extra special version of? (I am a ZebraCorn!!! Yay!!!) Enter a conversation with a friend, Ms. B, where I jokingly tell her to find me a man…yerrrpppp I am not always smart
So, me being me; with my huge love of psychology with a lesser interest in Sociology, I am turning this into a social experiment! And I am going to blog it all! Maybe sometime during this I will actually meet someone? We shall see!
The first question was what site- E Harmony Ms. B says. So E Harmony it is!
Next, the guidelines- Ms. B will help me with my profile. No I will not lie. However, we all know that our profiles do not show all of ourselves right off the bat.
The fun part is going to be how to judge/quantify the communication, interactions, and type of guys that I interact with.
So this blogging will have to be a 2 part thing… one will just follow my search for love…the other will be the sociological part.
If past history holds true, then 2 main types will find me…those looking for a quick roll in the hay and those that I can walk all over…So the trick will be how I measure this part… For that Ms. B and I came up with this:
~Men I message vs. men that message me
~Then men that only want sex
~Men that freak at realizing A. I have a kid or B. are in a wheel chair or C. both (mind you all this is in my profile)
~Then it gets into the actual communication: Is it a good convo vs. one sided and boring
All sound ok so far? That’s what we have, so far… suggestions are welcome, and I am sure this will change as things go along. This is a good starting point though.
My profile is live though, so here goes! I hope I do find someone… , lmao!
Until later, internet land!